Well, we did not really relate to this particular matter while growing up because it was like we all had the same path: nursery school, primary, secondary…It is usually from university that this matter comes in because you now have people go abroad to school and other clear differences start to come in.
‘We graduated together and now he/she has gotten a higher degree.’
‘His house is bigger than mine.’
‘They just got a new car.’
Comparing yourself to other people brings TRAGEDIES:
Envy, jealousy, bitterness, hatred, unnecessary and unhealthy competitions, ingrate, a low self-esteem, emotional imbalance, sadness and others. It can make you proud because when you see others doing something different from what you do, you tend to look at others who you think are better than as you have now entered a house of low-self esteem. This can make you feel like you are better off and pride can set in.(I do not want to say ‘doing better than you’ because the fact that people are advancing more than you does not necessarily mean they are getting better than you. Why? You are on a different path and since your journey is different, it is not needful to drag the successes of others to rate or grade your own journey. At the same time, if people are indeed better than you, no problem!!!!)
In life, it is important that always have it at the back of your mind that your race, journey or path is different from others. The more you understand and are conscious of this, the easier it will be for you to cope. Comparing yourself to other people is actually a disaster. It removes your eyes, mind and soul from your journey and makes you put yourself on the same lane with others; unfortunately, however, this time, you can never enter their own journey with them. It’s like you are running on the same lane but you are outside that race. Why? Because it is not for you!!!!!!
The bible was clear when it says in the book of 2 Corinthians chapter 10: 12 that ‘…but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are NOT WISE.’. Some bible translations say ‘lack understanding.’ NOT WISE because they can become ungrateful: they now forget to thank God for how far He has brought them, how far he has been helping them, his past blessings, etc. NOT WISE because they will now start carrying somebody’s success on their head in bitterness, anger, hatred and if they are not careful, that bitterness can manifest into committing murder. NOT WISE because they now give themselves emotional wahala; put problem on your head by yourself smh.
James 1: 5 says ‘if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.’ Sometimes, people think this bible passage is for so-called dumb people or ‘ode people’. Hmm, you are missing a lot. No matter how smart you are, the wisdom of God in a man’s life will always distinguish Him.
Today, you will ask for wisdom to be able to resist the temptation to compare your husband with your friend’s husband because her husband bought her a car and yours did not buy you one.
You will ask for the wisdom to not enter into that temptation of comparing yourself with others; of ignoring your own journey and getting bitter at other people’s own.
You will ask for grace to resist the spirit of comparing yourself with others.
So shall it be unto you.
The Lord help you and see you through.
Meanwhile, stop comparing not journeys alone; but also your spouse to anada; stop comparing your children too; stop comparing your job, etc. Please!! Don’t even compare yourself with your siblings; your child with your other child. Please, just stay in your lane😊